In this family farming business, the generations work together. They work hard, and at some point they lost their sense of direction..
The barn construction is undertaken amicably between all family members in order to creat steps forward in the interest of the farm business. to get better and bigger:
- First for dairy cows
- then a building for the breeding
- then the farmers house and apartment building is converted.
After the construction of the dairy barn, which was already a challenging time,the young farmer’s first child was born.
The housing situation became even more close and cramped:
- Parents in the basement
- successor on the upper floor, where two rooms were provisionally prepared
The farm always got the absolute priority.
So the father is not present at the birth of the son: he was in the stable. From then on, the wife was available to work on the farm and his parents of the farmers had to deal with health issues.
The grandfather is diagnosed with advanced MS.
The grandmother is diagnosed with joint arthrosis all over her body.
The wife is totally overwhelmed with the child and the situation.
They live in two chaotic rooms, without contact (Covid) to other families or mothers, and her own parents are about 50 km away. At the baptismal interview (child is one year old), the wife is diagnosed with massive depression. During the conversation it turns out that she had a short love affair with her brother-in-law in order to feel good about herself again.
So in a short time the whole situation became very difficult and challenging for the spouses, their little family, and as well the older family.
All those involved were overwhelmed. Situation seemed hopeless. Separation was on the cards. The question arose: “for whom do we do all this?”
At the same time, there are economic and financial constraints after the construction investment. This made a separation financial settlement with his spouse almost an impossibility and very difficult..